Nervous about telling your firstborn about a new baby?
Depending on the age group, children may react differently to a new member joining the family. Here are some tips for how to introduce your new baby to older children.
👣Toddlers aged 1-2 might not be able to grasp the concept of a new sibling, however, it is still important to prepare them for a new baby. To do so, engage in conversations about the baby and convey how excited you are. Parents can also read bedtime stories about all the great things that come with having a family companion to get them excited for the new arrival. With the addition of a new family member, attention will be inevitably taken away from the firstborn during the first few months. Parents can provide reassurance to your firstborn such that they feel seen and loved. For example, spend some alone time with your firstborn or get them a special gift to celebrate them becoming an older brother/sister.
🧒🏻Preschoolers between 2-4 years old are more sensitive to the idea of sharing you with a newborn. Always be honest by explaining that the baby will require lots of time and attention. They might get jealous and behave differently, and parents can provide them with the attention they need at this stage. At the same time, acknowledge their feelings and show appreciation when they behave in a mature way. You can also announce your pregnancy to your child with their aunt/uncle. Witnessing the relationship between mommy and daddy’s siblings can be a gateway for them to welcome the newborn and lessen the feelings of hostility.
👦🏻If your firstborn ages 5 years or above, you can explain the meaning of having a new baby and the changes that he/she may experience. Age-appropriate books and TV programs can help explain to your firstborn what a new addition to the family indicates. During the preparation, giving the older child a role to play can increase his/her excitement and involvement. Firstborns can help with fun tasks such as decorating nursery. Although school-aged children usually feel less threatened by a new baby, always reassure them that they will receive enough love and time.
